My wife has taught me that it pays to be a romantic to your spouse through out your time together. Marriage or just living together. We all spend lots of money and do special things when we are dating, but sometimes those special little things go away after time.
But showing your other half that you care, makes them feel special.
Sure we opened cars doors, or pulled out a chair years ago. When did you do it last for your spouse?
I know one husband that runs his wife's bathwater now and then and lights a candle. How about a foot massage or any massage? How about picking up a inexpensive bouquet for no reason on the way home for work? How about doing a job she always does to give her extra time for herself?
I have written I love you in lipstick or shaving cream all across the bathroom mirror. No she didn't kill me. In fact she left it up for a month. I have cut out hearts and wrote special messages on them. My wife would write I love you on a post it in a lunch she packed. I have taped a 8 1/2 x 11 sheet of paper saying I love you in the Fridge or the microwave before. (Don't do the oven!)
A friend of our quit buying gifts for his wife. We both told him he was crazy. Sure your wife might take the cloths back because we have bad taste. Sure it may not be exactly what she wants. But something is better than nothing. Besides take the time to think about what she really wants. Talk to her and you will learn what she really wants.
A "special" date night out with just your spouse is great too. Doesn't have to be expensive. A picnic in the park. Or even cooking for her. (I could never do the cooking one because my wife would kill me because I didn't buy the right ingredients) Though looking back on it she would have been happy with that too.
So be a romantic. Make your spouse feel special. It will help your relationship. This is what my wife Marianne has taught me.
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Russ Ravary
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Awww, Russ, how sweet you are! Your wife is very lucky, and apparently, you are too. Thanks for a great weekend ender!
Very sweet post! Sometimes we have to really think about what really is most important to us, and why we work as hard as we do. I'm sure you and your wife will continue to have a great romance!
So, in this same respect, what do guys like? Full control of the remote? baked goods every night? lol
I may laugh but I'm being quite serious...would like to do some nice little things for my husband. He's had a rough couple of weeks.
And, by the way, he usually does have full control of the remote anyway. Unless American Idol is on, then I will wrestle him to the death for it.
A good reminder for all of us guys. I am guilty as charged. I need to pay more attention, like opening the car door. I do pick up flowers for no reason but probably don't do that enough. However, when I take her to a really nice place to eat I always carry her tray!
Great information and it will help me to do a better job at taking care of the Mrs.
Hi Russ~ I have been impressed with your love story all along- even before you started this series. I can not begin to even imagine what you are going through right now. I am sad for you but happy that Marianne has you by her side, now and forever!
I just love this. It's all too easy in our everyday lives to forget those around us, especially our spouse. I think the smallest gestures have the biggest impact too and I love the fact that you recognise it's the trying that counts.
Russ: Thanks for the admonition. It's easy to get caught up in everyday stresses and then one day leads into the next, kids throw food on the floor, and otherwise go berserk, car breaks down, somebody wants to buy or sell and on and on. Have to remember the little things go a long way.
My wife taught me to listen to her.
You guys are very cute together -- all the best for lots and lots of years together --
Russ, this is great advice for anyone in a relationship and more especially to those of us that area married! Romance should never die!
thank you so very much for sharing your life with me Russ.
This is awesome. Your wife sounds like a special person. Enjoy the time together. I've been thinking about you a lot.
Russ, I have read all the posts in your series about Marianne. Your relationship reminds me of the relationship I had with my late husband. You are so fortunate to have shared a love so special. May your family and friends surround you with love and support. Know that you are in my thoughts.